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Wednesday, November 30, 2011
THE MOTIVATIONAL SPEAKING SCAM-ADEOLU AKINYEMI
"Yes! At last someone is talking about this", some people are bound to say. I have no doubts as well that this might offend some people - usually the people prospering from this scam and the people who are planning to go into it! I have no apologies for my point of view, if you read with an open conscience and do your due research, you will find out that what I'm communicating here is the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth.
Two interesting discoveries struck me today! I decided to spend some time listening to a personal development audio this morning ahead of going to work. Sometimes we don't know why we do what we do, but we have confidence that there is always a higher power at work, working in us to will and to do according to divine pleasure. This morning was no exception. For the first time, I decided to pay attention to the biography of Brian Tracy, what I heard created loads of questions in my mind, that today was going to be spent answering... little did I know!
Brian Tracy is a motivational speaker, no doubt, he's authored books, audios, trained and spoken in over 500 companies and speaks really well. What I did not know till today, was that Brian wasn't just a speaker, he had grown from rags to riches, not speaking, but doing all sorts of funny menial jobs and businesses. He is not talking about what he knows nothing about, his work experience and profile, from washing dishes, to digging ditches, stacking lumber working on farms, to working menial jobs in manufacturing, construction, factories even in a ship and finally in SALES from which he moved to Business Management! 20yrs after this experience he has built, managed or turned around 22 businesses. When he speaks, he's not scamming anybody, he knows what he's talking about.
To my utter surprise, I got into my office this morning and met a motivational speaker in my office. He lamented bitterly about how he felt that what many of them in the industry were doing was a scam. He opined that while he had all the certifications in the world, they were not really producing results. He was following his mentors and he has people following him, and he knows that it's all just a game of deceit. After all, even Jesus was recorded to have done and taught! The reality is there are many motivational speakers and motivational speakers wannabe out there, that can't point at anything they have done. Please tell me what are they really teaching people?
To almost crown it all up, I got into my car after 8pm to go home, and had the urge to listen to a DVD a friend shared with me earlier today. To my utter shock and disbelief, the first 5 mins of the audio were used to read the profile of the speaker. The summary of the profile was, he's authored and sold over 50 million copies of his books, but he's built and led over 60 businesses into worldwide growth. Again it struck me, this guy is not just speaking, he's done, and therefore earned the right to speak. Even though I eventually researched the man and could fault his speech, he still had a lot ahead of many motivational speakers or wannabes in this side of the divide. He had good and bad experience. He had a track record of sufficient experience to share with others.
Out of curiosity before I decided to lay down for the night, I decided to do a little research on one of America's premier and most influential motivational speakers and authors- Jim Rohn( 1930–2009 ), an American motivational speaker and writer whose work helped launch or further the career of many others in the personal development industry, including Anthony Robbins, Mark Victor Hansen, Brian Tracy, and Jack Canfield. Jim Rohn was also mentored by Mr. Shoaff who also had direct influence on the early lives of Zig Ziglar and Mary Kay Ash. At the age of 25, Rohn heard a "laws of success" lecture given by Shoaff and went to work for him. I did a little research on Jim Rohn and what I discovered amazed me. Jim Rohn was broke and struggling through life, until he met with John Earl Shoaff, who decided to mentor him and introduce him to a Network Marketing Company - AbundaVita. At the age of 25, Jim Rohn began to apply the laws of success into his business and made his first million dollars 6yrs later at the age of 31! It was only after Jim had become an authority in selling that he ventured 2yrs later into responding to a request to speak, and began to speak. He shared with people what he believed were the philosophies and principles that made him successful. He didn't speak his way to wealth.
I went further to check out great authors and highly priced speakers like Robert Kiyosaki and also discovered that the bedrock of their proclamations is the backing of quality sales experience that the first succeeded in before they began to speak. Kiyosaki learnt selling in Xerox, but opines that the best place to get this skill is by getting on board a Network Marketing company with a good development system. When you see someone who speaks for a living and not much he has done with his life before then, I can guarantee you one thing - All you are likely to get from the program is excitement. It will not translate into anything in your life, because you can't give what you don't have. You can talk about what you have not experienced, and fake the good successful life, but you cannot transfer what you don't own! It's really a case of "teacher, don't teach me nonsense!". Or how do you reckon that a man who teaches financial freedom does not really know what it truly means in an experiential way? How do you learn leadership from someone whose only real contact with leadership is questionable at best, minimal at most. How do you learn effectiveness from someone who is in the real sense far from effective? How do you learn life skills from someone who didn't use any of it? How sustainable is the model of your teacher? Can you be like him? How?
I reiterate, that teaching what you have not learnt is a scam! I encourage you to challenge your speakers to share their experiences with you, what rights have they got to lead you? What do they want you to do to become as wealthy or wealthier than them? They can't ask you to wait all your life for their kind of lucky break, what have they done with their hands? It's important that we begin to ask these questions, or we may indeed be forced to fake it and not eventually make it. Every time I see a young man or woman that says what he wants to become is a public speaker, I feel for him. If he really wants to be a public speaker, he must first learn to be a private worker! The only thing revealed over time in the public, is the result of secret and hidden toils and travails. Our public speakers should stop deceiving our youth and start a company or become a part of one! Let them have track records littered with failure, and possibly garnished with success, let them make moves and make waves. Let them apply their skills, and prove them before serving them to unsuspecting people.
In my next article, I will share with you my further amazing discoveries about some of the most prolific and affluent public speakers in America and their views about an emerging industry. I might even analyze a few speakers to check out their foundation. Till then, don't learn nonsense!
Tuesday, November 29, 2011
MAKE THIS DECEMBER ONE TO REMEMBER...ATTEND
NO EXCUSES! Conference Date: Saturday, December 10th, 2011
Venue: Grand Villa Hotel, Shonibare Estate, Maryland, Ikeja
Speakers: Steve Harris, Victor Sanchez Aghahowa (Rapper, Writer: Bachelors, Letters To A Stranger, Writer & Director: Tinsel), Omalicha (On Air Personality, Rhythm 93.7)
Book your seats now: pay N1000 into Zenith Bank, EdgeEcution Global Resources 1012627261 or struggle to pay at the venue.
Be there! This is one not to miss.
Thursday, November 24, 2011
THE 'ASSISTANT BOYFRIEND' SYNDROME
I read this piece over Myne Whitman's blog, but it sure resonates with what so many guys and ....even ladies alike go through.Have a great read
Sympathy love or not?
This is a situation that has always intrigued me especially since I have found myself in that scenario a couple of times. You meet a guy and you are friends for a while, and then you notice that he wants to be more than "just friends". This is the typical nice guy, he won't rush to jump your bones, or to define a romantic relationship. He only showers you with attention and affection. You name and he will do it, or has already done it. What will he not do? When I was in Uni, a guy said he would do anything.
"Anything?" I asked.
"Yes," he said.
I told him to lay down flat before me. Don't judge me, it was youthful exuberance and fresh memories of reading Estella in Dicken's Great Expectations. But guess what? The guy did. Let me not lie, it was very heady and sexy. At the end of the day, I still turned him away cos he was in first year and I was in second. There were a couple more times it happened. A very handsome guy, but not as smart as I wanted. One that was very caring and helpful, but not of the economic level I'd been brought up to expect.
We all have our lists, and I'm a big supporter of knowing what you want and sticking to it. But there are people who will love you so much and show it so well that you become confused. Maybe they even match half of what you're looking for. What do you do, throw out your non-negotiable and love them back?Feel free to comment
Wednesday, November 23, 2011
REVISITING THE UNIVERSITY EXPERIENCE
REVISITING THE UNIVERSITY EXPERIENCE
The buzz usually starts immediately they finish writing their final examinations paper,even during the examination , you could visibly see the anticipation on their faces.They are the graduating students , ready to take on their world.Chants of ‘Congratulations ‘ usually rents the air , followed by a full dose of laugther and excitement. This is usually the mood when final year students of universities write their final examination to round off their study.
The traditional design of school goes like this-get good grades, graduate with a degree, and boom!you are now in the career you’ve always wanted. But often times the fresh graduates realize too late that life is not divided in semesters,and the world out there is a university(a learning ground) on its own.
Oyeyinka Giwanson , a graduating student of Lagos State University, department of English studies, describes her university experience: ‘The university experience has taught me patience, tolerance and determination. Sometimes, i get discouraged and i feel like giving up, but the hope for a better future keeps me motivated’. In her words:’ It is beautiful passing through school, though its not a compulsory phase to pass through but it is necessary.I have been inspired by my lecturers and my friends alike. When asked about her post university plans, she passionately says:’I have plans to go to a French school and enrol in a photography academy, since I have a flair for the media ‘she noted.
‘Life is a stage and everyone a cast in the play ‘says Agbolade Omowole a 500level student of Ambrose Alli university, Ekpoma.In his words:’ My five years university experience has been challenging .I learnt how to cope with the struggles of life on campus ‘On his perspective about life after school, he makes a potent point: ‘To cope in the real world you need God, you need to use your brain, and other people’s time and resources.
For Funmi Gaji , a graduating student of Lagos State University, English department, the university experience is full of lessons to be learnt. ‘I have learnt to make hay while the sun shines.I learnt to be prepared always –You don’t wait till exam is a week away before you start reading.I learnt to work under pressure. These are lessons i believe can be applied to life.I learnt to fully maximize time for maximal result’ she said
Sikiru lamidi , also a graduating student of Lagos State university, English department believes the university experience is a clear case of different strokes for different folks.’ While so many have been carried away by the glitz and glamour , a selected few have always seen it as a challenge,an avenue where the wheels of a bright future is set in motion. The university experience has opened my eyes to things I have been happily ignorant about, made me a better person as i now understand that in actuality, my destiny is in my hands.I have been equipped with the theoretical knowledge needed to confront the world, now i realize that every man has a choice-to break even in life, or to remain tied to penury for life.’he expresses
According to Bill Gates:’Your school may have done away with winners and losers, but life HAS NOT. In some schools they have abolished failing grades and they'll give you as MANY TIMES as you want to get the right answer. This doesn't bear the slightest resemblance to ANYTHING in real life.'
MADE IN NAIJA..... POWERED BY THE YOUNG
MADE IN NAIJA.....POWERED BY THE YOUNG
.....Books you need to read before 2011 runs out
Books and all forms of writing are terror to those who wish to suppress the truth-Wole Soyinka
The game is changing now....the mantra that reads: ‘If you want to hide anything from a black man put it in a book, because they don’t read’. A crop of young Nigerians are using the written word to build lives and shape destinies.Here they are incisive and inspiring books you must read before 2011 draws the curtain on us
1.FROM COLLEGE DROP OUT TO CORPORATE SELL OUT by Steve Harris
In the brilliantly crafted foreword written by Tonye P.Cole, he says:’This book is an advice for everyone , anecdotes for parents with children in crisis,for siblings managing success and failures of each other, for entrepreneurs who look beyond the surface and take risks on people no one else would touch, for the downtrodden who can still find hope, for the backslider who overcomes his shame and runs back to God’.The book offers the reader a peek into how he rose from adversity and converted his clays into diamonds.Its a collector’s item.
2.MR FANTASTIC by Fela Durotoye
Many marriages have crashed after successful weddings.
This is because the wedding is not the marriage. The best that anybody can do for you is to come to your wedding but it is your responsibility to deal with your marriage.
You are better off not getting married than getting divorced.
The purpose of this book (Mr Fantastic) is to ensure that fewer marriages are dissolved because the link between strong marriages and strong nations is so critical. For me, this book is an important tool in ensuring that fewer marriages break up because the family unit is the smallest unit in a nation. This book is a must read to have a fantastic marriage.
3.TOMORROW DIED YESTERDAY by Chimeka Garricks
This is not just another ‘Niger Deltan story, it is one with heart and depth; palpable warmth and an intricate plot. Doye Koko popularly called ‘Doughboy’, Kaniye Rufus, Amaibi Akassa and Tubo are four fast friends bound together by history and circumstances. Fate has been unkind to all four friends and in turn has altered their lives in a most unexpected way.
1997 was the year everything changed in Asiama, the native town of all four men. An oil spill occurs with a heavy lawsuit following. The affected Asiama citizens get lucky and are compensated adequately but this is short-lived as ‘the powers that be’ ensure that none of these natives enjoy the fruits of the successful lawsuit.
Doye popularly known as “doughboy” becomes a terror to the oil companies, a demi-god to his kinsmen and an icon of some sort to everyone. He has become a Militant. In turn his actions put one of his best friends, Amaibi in danger.
A myriad of twists and turns bring all four friends together. Through betrayal, greed, deceit and neglect, the seams of their friendship is frayed but with the elasticity of love, understanding and a common history, the four friends overcome their personal demons and stick together the best way they know how.Its a great work well crafted and highly recommended.
4.THE SON OF YOUR FATHER’S CONCUBINE by Seun Salami
. It is a collection of eight short stories dealing with subjects like rape, faith, the search for identity/adventure, etc but they are all tragedies.Its a book worth reading as it provides learning points and centres around issues that affects humanity..
5.ENGAGED TO A JOB I HATE by Bankole Williams
The book was borne out of the author’s experience in two different work environments. One where he consistently heard people complain about their jobs and another where the staff were extremely passionate about their jobs and the impact it had on the lives of people. The biggest question he had always wanted to find answers to is, “why humans (people) act the way they do?” The quest for answers, particularly in the workplace led to further questions such as “why do people commit their lives to jobs that they detest?” and “Is there really any solution to this state of employee apathy?” This book was borne out of a desire to find and proffer lasting solutions to these pertinent issue
Some books are to be tasted, others to be swallowed, and some few are to be chewed and digested."
—Francis Bacon (1561-1626)
Join the book revolution today....these books will sure give your life a lift.
Sunday, November 13, 2011
T-WIZZLE.....AS SWEET AS SUGARCANE
T-wizzle,a.k.a Sugarcane-man,real names,Nnaemeka Israel Nwabueze,
born april 12,has been prominent on the music scene for over a decade till date.
He was first heard in september 2008 when he dropped the single "crazy",
and a follow up single "sugarcaneman" in 2009,which enjoyed massive rotation on radio stations nationwide. T-wizzle's motivation has been driven by his passion for good music. A christian by birth, he hails from Anambra state of Nigeria.
T-wizzle's music is inspired by legendary acts like Eidris Abdulkareem,
2face Idibia and american rapper 50 cent. his undying talent has gained him plenty of collaborations with a major one coming from "Knight house"
on thier street scriptures album which also features top acts like Wizkid,Eva and Mo'cheedah. T-wizzle has also performed in high profile events/concerts,i.e "Nigerian music video awards(NMVA),Rythm unplugged,2face Idibia's- Unstoppable superman show,Dj zeez's-live in oshogbo concert and Skuki's Hip-hop awards-celebration party".
He is also a songwriter and music producer,co-founder and signed artiste under PLAT2UNES world records.
T-wizzle is currently promoting two singles,"Blowing me away & Dirty eyes" from his debut album
slated to drop by early next year. These records are sure gonna blow you esteem fans away.
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Saturday, November 12, 2011
SHOW ME THE MONEY
SHOW ME THE MONEY
5 SUREFIRE WAYS TO LOCATING YOUR MONEY
Its not enough to desire a change in your financial status without knowing how to locate your financial bliss. The mystery behind money can be unravelled and an individual can be untied from financial slavery only when one wakes up to the reality that financial freedom doesn’t just answer to desire, it answers to knowledge.Life;s journey is meant to be enjoyed and not to be endured, therefore an ample dose of money can help you live the life of your dreams. So let us get started on the journey to locating where money lies and how to maximize it for maximum achievement.
1.PASSION
There is a connection between what you are passionate about and your money. The highest paid individuals in the world all engage in a love affair with their profession. Its something they love doing and still get paid doing it. According to Fela Durotoye:’God’s greatest joy is for you to earn a fee doing what you love to do for free’. Its not a fairy tale, its a reality that several young Nigerians are living. Years back Kelechi Amadi Obi a trained lawyer opted for his passion for photography,and today he is a sought after expert making mega bucks from his passion.So what are you passionate about?Your area of passion is a pointer to where your money lies
2.PRODUCT DEVELOPMENT
It is no longer news that you can create a product from your passion and become the new definition of a mogul.The Chicken soup for the soul brand powered by Jack canfield and Mark Victor Hansen was an idea years back ,but has been turned into a book comprising of other series affiliated to it and has turned them into reference points .Ayo Makun, one of Nigeria’s sought after humorists created the A.Y live brand,Funke Akindele created the ‘Bigz girl Jenifa’ brand,Dbanj created the ‘Koko brand ,what product are you going to create from your passion? A product is a cash cow with the capacity to make you rich for the rest of your life. Creating a product line from your passion is the key to getting to the frontline in your career.
3.PEOPLE
Let me quickly state here that uncovering the hidden potentials and fostering a positive relationship with others is not only tied to what you can get in terms of financial reward, its a direct result of what you can give in terms of value. It is also important to note that the starting point of building strong and productive relationships with others is when you genuinely care about others. If you desire to be a money magnet, then you have to cultivate strong networks with others. People are your customers, people are your clients, people constitute your fanbase,people make up your readership e.t.c.No one succeeds financially without focusing their lens on meeting the needs of the people.
4.PROBLEM SOLVING
Your financial bliss is in direct proportion to the amount of solutions you proffer to the problem you are configured, calibrated, and wired to solve. Every profession is a solution to a problem, and your earning power in life is tied to your problem solving power. You can’t possibly solve every problem in the world, but there is a problem you are incredibly endowed to solve. Our country is the way it is because the problem solvers have not risen to the field of play to take their place. What ever infuriates you and angers you is only calling forth the solution lying dormant within you. You are the solution, where is the problem?
5.POTENTIAL
Potential can be described as your latent ability, unused power, talent under -cover, your unwrapped gift waiting to explode for mankind to behold. When Emeka Smith unleashed and maximized his comedy potential he never knew it would some day pay his bills and take him from an unknown Youngman to a renowned youngster. Start playing to your strength not to your weakness.Your potential is a potent tool for crushing the yoke of poverty, never underestimate it.Your money is tied to your gifts, strengths and talents. Exhibit it, express it, equip it, give it an excellent packaging and it will take you to the top.
Get ready for a shift in your finances as you develop the capacity to locate and maximize the money already lying within you waiting to be uncovered and unleashed. I will read your success story.
Kehinde Ajose is a Sought After Talent development coach,Acclaimed Syndicated columnist and publicist.He helps individuals to discover and develop their talents in order to create wealth from it and become global brands.He is reachable @ splendidkenny01@yahoo.com or 08024212530
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